How often do you hear someone say they are making a sacrifice for the better? It’s a fairly strong word choice. Merriam-Webster offers 3 definitions, take your pick
1 : an act of offering to a deity something precious; especially: the killing of a victim on an altar. 2: something offered in sacrifice. 3 : destruction or surrender of something for the sake of something else: something given up or lost the sacrifices made by parents.
I get that we sometimes feel the need to say we are sacrificing something now for something greater or better than the now sometime in the foreseeable future, but what I can’t understand is when people feel that they have to sacrifice themselves and their priorities all the time.
Is it even fathomably possible that the best time of your life is actually now? I know we are hardwired to constantly build on the now in order to create a future that will be much better than the now however if you were to actually turn this into a mathematical equation it would mean that for an infinite amount of time you would never reach happiness or a state of constant satisfaction.
What I am proposing is that you have a right to be at peace, you have a right to feel contentment, you have a right to live without pressure. No man, no woman has a right to demand that you feel pressured into doing anything or thinking anything or feeling anything that you don’t want to or decide to for yourself.
The future may be better and it’s good to learn new things, build new skills and be excited about a better future. I just wouldn’t drive myself crazy and into an emotional flurry every day to race into an unknown future that may or may not be better than your current situation.
Here’s a few questions you can ask yourself when you start to feel like you’re making great sacrifices:
- Who’s asking you to sacrifice?
- What are they asking you to sacrifice? Is it for them or for you?
- Will the end result be worth the sacrifice?
- Are you ok right now at this very moment?
- What if you don’t end up getting what you want at the end of your so-called sacrifices?
- Will you have enjoyed your journey and gotten something else of value out of the experience?
- Is there another word that is more suitable to use in your situation than sacrifice?
Long ago I decided to live my life on my own terms and I decided that I would keep my life fun and interesting and not second guess any of my decisions or life choices. I decided that I had the right to make new decisions and new choices if I thought that the decisions or choices I made could be better or bring me a different result.
My biggest decision was to make sure that I didn’t put myself into a position where I had to do something or felt forced to do something.. I enjoy choosing to do things and I sincerely hope you do too.
And I believe it’s always a good idea to keep the wit and wisdom of the Irish in your thoughts…
Dominic Kotarski – International Consultant | Author | Coach | Trainer | Speaker