Relationships and Burning Bridges

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There’s only two reasons for burning a bridge, you’re at war and the enemy is coming or you’re being chased by someone or something (Zombies came to mind) and you get across the bridge first. I’m wondering though, what happens if you burn the bridge only to find that there’s an even greater enemy or monster waiting for you on the other side.

I mean what if you could outsmart, out maneuver, run faster than your primary enemy? Then you might have a fighting chance. Or at least if death were imminent you could decide on which way you’d like to parish. At least you would have some choices available and could exercise your last act of free will.

I’m also wondering where that advise came from if it’s not just a leftover from our warrior days.

In all relationships war like stances are destructive. The old “line in the sand” is so inflexible that you volutarily relinquish all your chances of problem solving creativity. There’s no such thing as ending a relationship. One person is always in relation to another in some form.

Business relationships, personal relationships, parental relationships, relationships with self, relationship to authority, relationship to colleagues, competitors, trusted friends and colleagues and those that have shown that they cannot be trusted. There are those that you have done business with in the past that you may not choose to do business with in the future. There are people that have a bad reputation that you may have found out about and chosen not to engage with them based on your new found information.

Some people I know tell me that they don’t want to work for themselves because they don’t trust themselves enough to get motivated to do the the work that needs to be done? It’s an unfortunate truth for many highly intelligent people.

My proposal is to trust first and give people a chance to be honest, show and prove their professionalism. Treat your contacts and business partners just as you would expect to be treated. If you get burned or let down by that person then learn from it and move on. But don’t do seconds. People can make mistakes but not around honesty issues. That should be where the line is drawn.

I would like to know your thoughts around relationships, trust and second chances. What have you learned and what advice would you give to people concerning second chances?

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Dominic Kotarski

Dominic Kotarski is an author, coach, sales trainer and Founder of Sales Success Academy. He's personally inspired, coached, trained and managed thousands of salespeople and business owners in 11 different countries. You can find him in Vancouver, Canada where he lives, works, runs, ski's and spends most of his free time with his family.

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