It’s All One
We’ve all tried it and we’ve all probably eventually come to the same conclusion that it’s near impossible to separate your personal life from your professional life. If you’re a parent and you’re still trying to convince yourself that you’re succeeding then you might want to weigh in on this blog post and let us know how you do it.
When my first child was born I was running a large sales and marketing company which had over 1000 people spanning 11 countries. Needless to say, I was busy taking care of business. I can distinctly remember trying to run a worldwide conference call while my 1-year-old son was screaming for his dad’s attention in the other room. It pains me to think about how “professional” I was trying to be and how unsuccessful I was at keeping a separation between the loves of my life and my business life. Eventually, I figured out how to manage it by relaxing, integrating and prioritizing all the needs of my family and my business.
There is a big difference between managing grown-ups and raising your children, well maybe not a big difference in terms of perceived neediness but more in terms of significant long term impact. My child was now my most important priority and the rest of my life needed to re-align with my new priority.
Many of my colleagues at the time made starkly different decisions about what was important to them and that’s what’s so beautiful about the power of choice and the way we decide to design our lives.
What I do know with unequivocal certainty is that there is no such thing as a way to separate your personal life from your business life. Your life is all one. There is no separation. There is only a merging of something new into something that was probably already quite full. There is only a “dealing with reality” and deciding what’s important to you and where you desire to put your attention.
You can physically be present and mentally be somewhere else. We all know how this works. I will say, however, that beauty, depth, true relationship and true feeling is only possible when you put down your device, look someone in the eyes and make a real connection with your mind and your heart.
If you’re interested in true dividends then I’m sure you’ll find them there.