How do you do it? Do you manage yourself like you do your staff? Do you encourage yourself like you do your loved ones? How bout your self-talk? All good, you don’t berate yourself or beat yourself up when you make a mistake? Then by all means, give yourself an A+ and sprinkle on a couple of silver and golden stars to boot.
If you’re like most of us, chances are you’re not doing a great job with self-management. There are very few that have mastered the art but as life would have it, we are all in charge of managing our input and output. Even if you have a boss you’re still in charge of your career, your agenda, your attitude, your self-development, your education and a long list of personal responsibilities.
Considering this uncalled-for conundrum, it makes sense for all of us to put some real focus on developing our self-management skills. Here’s a starter list for your reference:
Stuff to do more of or start doing:
- Read books on subjects that will help you go further in your profession.
- Read books on topics you’re interested in learning more about.
- Join professional networking groups online or in real-time.
- Write down your daily must-do tasks and get them done – “no matter what”.
- Prioritize tasks that will further your career or interests.
- Build self-trust – do what you say (self-talk) and say what you do (self-reminder).
- Be grateful for all the wonderful people in your life and all that you’ve attained thus far.
- Promise yourself that you will not die with any regrets.
- Work on your positive and realistic self-talk. (never believe in your imagined limits).
- Be open to raising your expectations.
- Allow yourself to be happy and content (with a positive edge).
- Increase your output, your creativity, your belief in your own thoughts, feelings, and ideas.
- Ask more questions and really listen to the answer.
Stuff to stop doing or reduce:
- Drastically reduce your tv, Netflix, social scrolling time – it’s a dessert you’re allowed to embellish in once you’ve done your important tasks.
- Thinking that you have to work for someone.
- Thinking that you can’t trust yourself enough to work for yourself.
- Someone else knows the magic formula.
- Giving your power over to someone else.
- Never ask how or why – find out and explore for yourself.
- Reduce your passive input in terms of media and other people’s opinions.
In Summary, it’s apparent that our society was not set up to teach us how to be independent in thought and actions. We were encouraged to go along, be a part of a team, be cooperative. Of course, these are all good qualities to possess as an individual in order to create and prolong a healthy society and a strong community. However, without individuals developing a strong core of healthy independence in thoughts and actions we run the risk of being a society that’s lopsided and out of balance. Our imbalanced citizens might follow a strong but misguided leader rather than have the courage to speak their own mind and be tenacious enough to suggest and then create another way.
“He who cannot be a good follower cannot be a good leader.”
“All great leaders were once intelligent followers” is probably a more modern way to understand this ancient wisdom.
So it is with you, we have all followed long enough, now is the time to rise up and manage our own lives. Show up and be what we were born to be. As we get older we will only become more of who we were meant to be, that is… as long as we live our live’s on our own terms and follow the wiser than words dictum – NO REGRETS!
What you waitin on?
Dominic Kotarski is the author of international best-seller “The Making”. He writes, speaks, inspires, motivates and teaches the most important aspects of your business including Sales, Coaching, Team-Building, People Management, and Business Development. Get weekly access to his blog & training videos FREE by subscribing HERE! and when you sign up you will get Instant Access to his Sales Skills Training Video.