In a perfect world…
- Everyone would buy my products and services.
- I would wake up every morning happy, refreshed, full of new ideas and massive energy.
- My wife, children, friends and colleagues would adore me. (well, this one’s not too far off the truth)
- My Business would be growing at a constant, steady, crazy yet manageable clip, month-to-month.
- All my blog posts would go absolutely unequivocally viral.
The problem with this kind of thinking is that it leads to unnecessary strife if not full blown cognitive dissonance. I certainly don’t want my belief systems competing for brain energy. There’s simply too many worldly demands commanding my full attention in the present moment.
As well, this type of perfect world thinking diminishes my day to day, moment to moment happiness. Which leads to the kind of thinking that sounds like this:
I’ll be happy when…
- My entire sales team hits their daily target.
- My mortgage is paid off.
- My business has expanded to 20 countries.
- My kids have graduated from University.
- My wife figures out her new calling.
I’ve always lived by the “feel good – do good” Performance Enhancing Methodology (see model above the post). I’m not saying that I’m 100% satisfied with where I’m at or what I have or haven’t accomplished thus far in my life. But I’m certainly not going to beat myself up over mistakes I’ve made, passions I’ve pursued or past decisions.
I never thought I should yell at my children when they “spilled the milk”. The mistake has already been made. They knew that they had done something wrong. Why should they then be subjected to ongoing torment from their frustrated dad?
And so it is with us, we should strive to do whatever we’ve got to do in order to get our thoughts and emotions in a fun, childlike state of happiness and contentment. Then go out into the market place and cause all the havoc we possibly can with all the personality, intelligence and energy we can muster.
“Never look back good days ahead” song quote by John Lydon of Public Image Limited aka Johnny Rotten of the Sex Pistols.
Dominic Kotarski – International Consultant | Author | Coach | Trainer | Speaker
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