The Finer Things in Life

It’s pretty important for you to make your own list of what you consider to be “The Finer Things in Life” and then passionately go about setting your goals to make your list a reality.

When my “official” working life started my initial list was all about having the flexibility to create my own income. The harder and smarter I worked the more income I could create for myself. Sure I had a place to live but I spent so much time away from my abode I considered a nice office, a sports car, a posh fitness club and being involved with prestigious organizations some of life’s finer things. I ate out often so I loved spending on nice restaurants and big nights out with my team. These things I considered some of the finer things in life. As time went on and I became a father the chance to carve out some solid me time became my “Primary Aspiration.”

Once I had established myself and was able to upgrade my home and purchase a few nice pieces of furniture, I naturally wanted to spend more time in my beautiful surroundings. I had invested a big chunk of my savings in a new house and I thought it didn’t make much sense to always be somewhere else if I loved my house so much. It was at this stage that I downsized my business and eventually stopped leasing office space and created a home office. This ended up being a great move because I didn’t have to work as much or as often to pay for all those extra separate office expenses.

We all have our own version of the finer things and I’ve come to realize that my most valuable asset is simply my finite time. I want to be sure that I minimize the time I spend working too much beyond life’s necessities and make sure to remain discerning about my insatiable desires. I want to be sure I’m not working to pay for things that I later realize I don’t really need.

I want to spend time hanging out with my wife and kids. I want to be able to go kayaking on a sunny day or be able to go for a run in the afternoon. I like to enjoy a nice lunch and a glass of wine or craft beer mid afternoon while I organize my business and life priorities. I like to have a nice book to read for those cozy evenings when all my have to’s are accomplished.

Undoubtedly, My list is probably not your list so you can see how important it is not only to create your own “Finer Things” list but also to keep it updated and fluid with your current priorities. You’ve got to fight all pre-conceived ideas about how to live your life and make sure to keep your own definition of the “Good Life” top of mind. You’ll definitely want to avoid any tendency of Social Proof when considering your life’s aspirations.

Many people spend too much of their lives working to reach a pinnacle of perfection that is not only unrealistic, it’s probably not even real because the image has been created by aspirational advertisers.

A good way to find out what you want is to sit down and list your current main priorities. The people and things that mean the most to you right now in your life. Once you’ve made yourself more aware of your top priorities then consider what you can do to keep enhancing them. How can you improve the quality of these priorities?

If you feel like you’re neglecting someone or something that you know needs more of your undivided attention then look at some sacrifices you could make in order to get more focused on the things you care about most.

Once your time and attention are aligned with your core priorities and those things which you value most,  your life will be a total embodiment of ‘The Finer things,” and you will be living by your own standards and empowering others to do the same.


Dominic Kotarski – International Consultant | Author | Coach | Trainer | Speaker


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2 Comments

  • Laura Seneker

    Reply Reply March 21, 2017

    I am pleased to find someone who’s successful in business but prioritizes success as living life and good relationships with self, family and friends!!!
    I know you’ve worked hard and long hours.
    But to see a successful business leader not emphasizing 60 hour work weeks as the only way to succeed is reassuring!!
    I, personally, believe that the idea that people must work 40-60+ hour weeks (especially while not earning a living wage) has been a major factor in the breakdown of the American family!
    Another factor is the sale of the “picture postcard” image of success as being a huge house, new cars every 3 years, new clothes from expensive stores, expensive vacations as the American Dream IMO.
    What happened to playing outside, drinking Koolaid or tea, getting dirty, going to the Library, eating together, vacation spent visiting relatives; and 8-hour shift/40 hour work week supporting a family in a decent size house; homemade, hand-me-down & some new clothes; plenty of food; and health insurance??
    As you said
    “A good way to find out what you want is to sit down and list your current main priorities.
    The people and things that mean the most to you right now in your life. Once you’ve made yourself more aware of your top priorities then consider what you can do to keep enhancing them. How can you improve the quality of these priorities?”
    Thank you Dom for sharing a better definition of success!!!

    • Dominic Kotarski

      Reply Reply March 28, 2017

      Hi Laura, thank you so much for taking the time to share your thoughts on this topic. I think you might have hit on a big challenge facing North American Life in today’s society. I believe that if people are smart and vigilant they can win in the current system but it would certainly be a better world if there were much more focus and care from large organizations to re-define this topic. But of course, this might mean less profit in the short term but possibly more sustainability in the long run.

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